Couples Coaching

Based on Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents

Something special happens when you carve out time for your relationship and sit with your partner, ready to go deep, explore old patterns, and learn new skills. 

Couples coaching is for you if you and your partner:

  • Are considering becoming parents and your goal is to tighten your team before baby hits the scene. 

  • Are new parents and your goal is to better integrate parenthood into your lives as individuals and as a couple. Or you’ve noticed an increase in conflict or in disconnection/loneliness, or are having a hard time making agreements about parenting. 

  • Have been on the parenting journey for a while and could benefit from support for your partnership. Common goals include conflict resolution, sexual health, different ideas about how to parent, division of labor, and difficulty tending to your relationship with each other.

 

How we can work together:

I’m thrilled to offer the opportunity to couples around the country to work with me as your private relationship coach. I will teach you the skills and tools I wrote about in Baby Bomb and show you how to apply them in your daily life. You can choose to work on such goals as coregulation, conflict resolution, sexual health, and how to support each other as parents and partners. 

What makes couples coaching different from therapy is that our work will focus on your specific goals, co-creation of the kind of family you want to raise your kids in, and an overall vision of your future. We will look at old patterns that may be slowing down your progress but we won’t work on trauma specifically.

All couples coaching is online via Zoom. 

You will be making a $400/80-minute session investment for each session. During our first session, we will discuss your goals and get a sense of how long you would like my help. It would be great if you could read Baby Bomb before we meet, but if you haven’t, that’s not a problem.

Email me if you’re interested in beginning our journey together.

  • “Kara’s genuine caring and love for the information she is sharing are infectious. She is knowledgeable about her subject matter and has walked the path she is taking her students on. I felt seen in her workshop and thought she created a safe container for significant growth.” –Naomi Buckley

  • “I have had the pleasure of participating in a workshop led by Kara Hoppe. She has the unique ability to relay information in a clear, relatable, and humorous way, which kept me engaged and very connected both to the subject she was teaching and to Kara as a person and a teacher. Kara is the best!” – Aurisha Smolarski, MA, LMFT

  • “Kara is an engaged and informative teacher. She created a safe space for us to go deeper with our inner work. I learned a lot in her course and continue to use the skills she taught us in my personal life and therapy practice.” – Francisca Fenwick MA, LMFT

  • “My wife and I worked with Kara, and the work was deep and touching. She’s a gentle guide who inspired us to transform our marriage by applying her practices. I would encourage any couple feeling stuck and looking for ways to change to give her lessons a go.” – Nick L.

  • “I had the great pleasure of taking Kara Hoppe’s Women Who Run With the Wolves workshop. She is insightful, caring, and funny, and I picked up many useful tools from her class. It’s clear she loves the material she teaches, and I would jump at the chance to work with her in the future.” – Maximilla Lukacs

  • “With Kara’s guidance I was supported in safely soul mining into the deeper layers within myself. She made me fall in love with being a wild woman and embracing that side of myself unapologetically! Kara’s groups are radically fun and deeply meaningful.” – D.Z.

Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, feminist, and mother.

She has spent more than a decade as an inclusive therapist working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe also offers virtual retreats for parents and expectant couples, based on her book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, a 2021 INDIES finalist. Her work has been featured in The Atlantic, Parents Magazine, Psychology Today, Fatherly, and YourTango, among other publications. She lives with her husband and two children in Pioneertown, CA, and sees clients in private practice via telehealth.